She realized she owed it to herself… and so she began.
Have you ever thought of yourself as “unbecoming”? Not in the way the world often frames the word, but in the truest sense: peeling back layers that no longer serve you, so that you can shine brighter. Stepping into your purpose with clarity. Coming alive by fulfilling dreams you once thought were out of reach. Or simply giving yourself permission to pause, breathe, and just be, without expectation or the need to perform; to become the woman you were always meant to be.
I have decided to write a three-part series focused on that journey: Unbecoming to Become. It is an idea that has been living inside me for a long time, and one I believe speaks to so many of us; especially when we’re in seasons of transition, healing, or simply finding our way back to ourselves.
Today’s post is the first in that series:
Unbecoming to Become: The Woman I Owe It to Myself to Be.
There comes a moment in a woman’s life when there’s a shift — not loudly, but undeniably. She realizes she can’t keep living the same way, saying yes to everything but herself. She starts to recognize a voice that’s been nudging her all along—soft, yet unyielding. And when she finally leans in to hear it, everything changes.
“She realized she owed it to herself to become everything she’d ever dreamt of.”
That’s exactly where I find myself now.
I am in my 60s, and while the world might expect me to slow down or shrink back, I feel more alive and aligned with who I am than ever before. I’m not winding down; I am beginning a new chapter. But to get here, I have had to shed some layers.
II have had to unbecome the version of me who needed to prove her worth; the version who stayed quiet to avoid discomfort. The one who checked every box, but forgot to put herself on the list.
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For me, unbecoming does not mean falling apart; it’s coming home. It’s peeling away the layers of expectation, survival, and self-sacrifice so I can return to the woman who has always been there, quietly waiting. |
Answering the Voice
For years, writing lived inside me. I journaled. I scribbled down reflections. I have written stories, poems and essays that I didn’t always share. But recently, that inner voice grew stronger, urging me to stop hiding, to stop waiting, and to speak from the center of my truth.
Creating Heart is Home was my first public “yes” to that voice. It’s not only a journal but also a reflection of who I am; a place where I remind myself, and every woman like me, that we are allowed to pause, process, and feel deeply. That our softness is a strength. That our stories are sacred.
Since then, the words haven’t stopped flowing. I’m now writing my first novel—a dream I once jotted down but did not name as a goal, because I couldn’t imagine myself doing it. I am also working on a follow-up to Heart is Home and creating a library of all my poems. Along the way, I’ve been steadily pushing myself as a multi-passionate creative—stretching beyond my comfort zone and, in the process, uncovering parts of myself I’d forgotten. The more I write, the more I return to who I truly am. The more I create, the more I trust my voice.
Becoming with Intention
This August, my birthday month, I’m embracing the theme of becoming: going where I glow. I am choosing intention over hustle; clarity over chaos; presence over performance.
But this is not only my journey. It is one we can walk together. I believe in evolving, not erasing; in releasing the versions of ourselves shaped by survival or expectation, so we can rise into who we are always meant to be.
Wherever you are right now, whatever season you are navigating, you are allowed to begin again. You are allowed to soften and still rise. You are allowed to glow right where you are.
You don’t need permission to begin again; you only need the courage to answer when your soul calls.
So yes! I realized I owe it to myself to become everything I have ever dreamt of, and that I am not late. Day by day, I’m choosing to do just that, and I hope you are too.
With love and light,
xo, Marcia
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